Well Darlings,
This Fabulous Diva, was in a bit of an upset. ****sigh****
My dear faithful white Cadillac Cimmeron died a final sad death. True the poor thing had been ailing but I thought after 20 years it could go a few years more.
Well I just had her tuned up, and was told she would pass smog, wonderful I thought, BUT----
I had parked her in front of my house, prior to going to do some shopping, but just as I was about to step out of the door the phone rings and I stop and listened to the answering machine just in case it was something I had to attend to immediately----telephone solisitations need not apply.
Well it was my Dear Friend Betty and she wanted to know if I could meet her for lunch and hoped I'd get her message, I quickly picked up the phone, had a nice chat with Betty made arrangements to met her for lunch and then went out side to my Cadillac and-----no Car!!!
Now before anyone accuses me of leaving my keys in the ignitition I can assure you that I did nothing like that. My key stays with me at all times and I do not leave the car running what with gasoline being so expensive (even a Diva MUST budget).
Now who would steal a 20 year old Cadillac??---well Darlings I called the police and a very nice (and handsome ***sigh***) police officer came and took the report plus I had a photo of the poor thing. So he did a BOLO---whatever that is---to be on the watch for it.
Just as we were about to say our goodbys, his radio comes back with a message----my Cadillac was in an accident!!!
It seems that it had been stolen by three teenagers who took it for a joy ride---no doubt being very happy that it had a full tank of gas-----One of them knew how to hot wire it or something--- and they wrapped it around a telephone pole, managed to get out of the car AND RUN AWAY!!
I cell phoned my friend Betty and said that Lunch was going to be postponed and why and the police officer took me to to scene.
***sigh***it was my car or what was left of it.
The police had a description of the thieves, it seems a passerby took a phone camera picture of them. So I'm having the legal system and my lawyer deal with it.
Remember dear future Diva's you must have a good lawyer to deal with these problems.
Oh I was soooo upset (that is putting it mildly) but thanks to dear Betty who came to my rescue,
She advised we go to Las Vegas for 4 days take in all the spa treatments the Bellagio has to offer and plan on buying my New Car.
So after consulting with my finances (which are in excellent shape)---it was all systems GO!
And I bought IT! She is totally decadent! I call her "Wicked" and she is---totally over the top and tacky and she is all MINE!!
She is a 2007 Ford Mustang Convertible----painted this deep burnished gold color, with a black cloth top, wood finished paneling where it counts---air conditioning, satillight radio, On Star, cd player, alarm locking system and leapoard print seats with black carpeting. And she will be fully MINE with just 3 more very hefty payments.
The mechanics LOVE detailing her. And there are some neighbors boys, all young teenagers that act like they would like to make love to her. Sorry Boys, but She's A Lady! for all her excessive trappings.
I am fortunate that I have a nice spacious garage to put her in. Already she's been to Santa Barbra, the Brookdale Lodge (ageing but relaxing), Carmel, and we are planning a little trip up to the Wine Country.
Before I even took her on her first trip, Betty and Bill and all my other friends said that I simply had to get new luggae, I said that what I had was fine, until I took a very serious look at what I had---worn out, zippers shot-fraying on the edges---
So Betty and I simply zipper over to San Francisco to the Samsonite shop and there they were in Black, the retro collection--PERFECT!! I felt like La Marlene all over again.
And darlings what about my poor cadillac? Well there was enough of her for some very serious salvage, I made arrangements and she was purchased and the money I donated to St. Jude's Hospital for children----well Dears altho there are naughty children out there, there are one's that do need that chance. And St. Jude's is the best chance for many of them.
Ta Taaaa for now, as I go zipping down the hyway.
Friday, July 20, 2007
Sunday, May 6, 2007
HOW TO BE A DIVA Chapter two
Well Darlings,
I'm soooo sorry it took so long to get this part up, but my dear friend "Mean Kitty" has been going back and forth to make sure that she and her darling niece have it right.
Now in this part we are discussing one of the MOST important foundations of Divadom---and no my dears I'm not talking "max factor" or "covergirl" , We are referring to what is important to help you get the Diva Life you desire so much.
This is your foundation to build on----now for those of you who are finally coming into your Divaness late in life, do not feel left out. This part of life never stops----and in this case this old dog is still learning a few new tricks.
Now what are we talking about??? Hmmmmm??? Why EDUCATION of course!!!
The young have no idea how important Education is to help begin to become a Diva, they waste an important part of their life and then spend years trying to catch up or years of saying to themselves "What the H#$% Happened?" If only they paid attention at the beginning.
Being a Diva is more than looking beautiful and having a lot of Diamonds. Being a Diva is having the wearwithal to work to obtain the Diva life. And Education is the Foundation to the Diva Life.
So Possums here we goooo~~~~~
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
EDUCATION
The first and foremost thing a Diva needs and will seek and get is A GOOD EDUCATION. And a Diva knows that an education is on going in life because a Diva NEVER STOPS LEARNING.
As a Diva is growing up she feels that school is a bore, because a Diva wants to play; the mind set is “I want to have fun”, BUT without an education a Diva will not have the tools to finance and live the Diva life. It’s important for the Diva to balance getting an education and wanting to play. As a matter of fact all of a Diva’s life is a balancing act.
Young people think that they know it all, but they don’t, they think what they see on television is for real but they have not learned to discern, to find the real truth, they will follow without thinking who ever is the political glamour queen or king and think that their message is gospel. A Diva knows that is not so.
For Example: A lot of people think that Al Gore’s message on Climate Change is brought upon by Human beings as being the gospel truth, but many, many climatologiests have found through careful scientific research that it’s really cyclic----that 1000 years ago the earth was much warmer, that Vikings were growing wheat in Greenland, but then it began to get cold, until it became the weather that we are familiar with, and wheat hasn’t grown in Greenland in the last 600 years. Al Gore is claiming that the seas will rise 17 feet with the melting of the North Pole; Scientists are saying that it will rise only 17 inches and that the South Pole is getting colder and the reason that ice shelf’s are cleaving off is because of weight.
The point is this--- a Diva will search for the Truth and not believe everything she hears because a Diva is aware of falsehoods and deliberate mis-information so that politicians and other groups will be able to promote their own agenda.
When a Diva is in college she will also beware of any teacher that will promote one political agenda and not allow room for other thoughts, those teachers and professors are the worst kind and a Diva will beware of groups that promote a Stalinist type agenda under the disguise of political awareness.
A Diva will remember the adage “If you promote a lie long enough and hard enough the public will come to believe it” (Joseph Gobbles, Hitler’s propaganda minister)
A number of young people think that the “gangsta life” is the way to get a head but it only leads them down a path of self destruction and death. A Diva is way too smart to fall for those falsehoods, because a Diva knows that the real power is what is behind the scenes. Not the performers, but the investors. Because a performer is here today and forgotten tomorrow, but money from a solid investment is permanent. (Remember Brittany Spears’ meltdown)
Because of that A Diva has to constantly remind herself that EDUCATION IS IMPORTANT, MORE IMPORTANT THAN BOYS OR FUN because the fun will come AFTER the Diva has her tools and weapons sharpened to outsmart the fools and a Diva is never a fool.
A Diva will find ways to make Education interesting, she will ask her teachers questions that she needs to find the answers for. She will not be a pest about it, but demonstrate to the teachers that she wants that education. She is not trying to be a teacher’s pet, but looking for a teacher to mentor her, she will cultivate those teachers that have the education smarts to offer her.
In time, especially in High School, having letters of recommendation from several teachers can be a plus to help get college grants to get into the college a Diva wants to go to.
A Diva will go to school, work hard to get excellent grades without looking like the class brain and knows that grammar school and high school and its entire teenage angst are only transitory and only training grounds to learn to excel in the world. She will GET a college education so that she can succeed in the world, earn tons of money and maintain being her own woman.
A Diva will not develop a crush on a teacher, especially in college because it will distract her from her DIVA goal. Nor will a Diva develop a crush on a boy because he looks “dreamy”, because a Diva KNOWS that old dreamy boy will develop a gut; lose his hair and eventually his looks.
In school a Diva will develop friends that look like they are planning to go places but not do stupid things such as drinking, drugs, fast reckless driving. She will develop both female and male friends---the male friends are handy for a quick date for any of the school events, but she will never commit herself to any one boyfriend, because a Diva is going places and doesn’t need that kind of baggage that doesn’t measure up to the Diva Standards to hold her back
While she is at school she will know that at home she will have her parents as a support group to give her the adult take on life---the only time this can be difficult is if a Diva has toxic parents. If that is a problem a Diva would be wise to seek a school consular or teacher to help her focus on her goals.
No matter what field of work a Diva chooses she will get an excellent education in areas of finance, business, legal understanding, medical, religion, literature, music (and more than just rap, rock or hip-hop----you have Got to know classical music), politics as well as in the mundane areas such as auto mechanics, home repair, and know the mundane stuff such as how to cook, sew a button, fix a hem and get stains out of clothing.
When a Diva goes to College she will seek a degree in which it will afford the most opportunity to earn the DIVA Money, such degrees as Accounting, Business administration/management, computer science, information sciences and systems, marketing/marketing management, computer engineering, Economics/Finance. She will not ignore the degrees of Journalism or Media Marketing either. Wherever she can earn Diva Bucks is where the Diva will go, forget Theatre arts and Music---there are too many starving actors and musicians out there. The Diva can minor in such fields especially if she plans to work in the support areas of film and theatre, such as actor agencies, set design, etc. but she must keep her eye on the Diva Bucks.
The Diva will also look into the fields of technology, consulting and investment fields as well as real estate, biotech, pharmaceutical companies and health care, and other science-oriented companies, as well as private equity firms, and she should be aware of ‘boutique’ consulting firms that are sometimes spin-offs of larger companies.
After a Diva graduates from college (with no less than a MBA) she will NOT stop her education, she will continue to take classes than she can squeeze in her busy Diva life that will help expand her education and awareness. She will take seminars especially in the field that she has studied, she will also take seminars (that don’t sound like a possible rip off) to help her learn other ways to earn the Diva Bucks. The Diva will go to conferences, to learn and network so that she can always rise up in her job and earn more Diva Bucks.
A Diva will learn to read and understand the financial pages of the newspaper especially if she wants to learn how to invest her money to make more money.
As a matter of fact a Diva will be a borderline “news junkie” because she knows what happens in one part of the world will affect her stock income. And I’m not referring to the 10 second sound bite on CNN, She WILL read the Newspapers, magazines, and journals.
A Diva will intellectually be a knowledgeable well rounded woman, even smarter than the men she has to deal with, but she will also know how to milk a man or even another woman for his/her knowledge, especially if it is to the Diva’s advantage.
A Diva will learn a second language, but will not let on that she knows the language, this way if they talk behind her back, she’ll be one up on them. By pretending to not know the language, her competitors will be apt to speak more freely around her, and a Diva will gain a great advantage.
A Diva will be computer savvy and not afraid of electronics, she’ll know how to program a VCR better than 7 year old. In some fields, the better she knows how to work around a computer the better for her. Think of Ms. Garcia in the T.V. show “Criminal Minds” or Abby in “NCIS” or the beautiful Russian computer programmer in the Bond movie “Goldeneye”.
A Diva will cultivate friends both in high and low places, for it is important not only what a Diva knows but whom a Diva knows, for a Diva can be as devious as “Laura Mars” and know where to have well placed friends in “low places” so she can get the information and well placed friends in “high places” so she can call in a favor, but she also needs to remember she too may be called to pay back the favor as well.
A Diva will be wise to also place a certain distance between herself and those who are in a position to help her---to avoid intimacy will help the Diva remain clear headed and focused.
A Diva will learn the value of Networking in College because they will eventually become the contacts one needs in business (I will re-peat this frequently)
A Diva will develop an extensive proper English speaking vocabulary and avoid foul words and stumbling sayings such as “er, um, a like ya know, a like a, gee that’s hecka bad, gee Dude, where you at, get your freak on, Wassup, etc.” The only time she would ever use those words is when she is with her nearest and dearest.
But out in the real world, where you are earning the Diva Bucks, what you say and how you say it is what other people will judge you by and a Diva knows that and by speaking correctly, using all the right and proper phrases, people will think she’s is 24 karat gold and not vermeil----Because a Diva is always 24 karat gold and never vermeil.
A Diva will know how to shoot a gun, shot pool, play poker or Texas hold ‘em and still be a lady when she goes for the throat.
A Diva will develop a well rounded and well-modulated speaking voice so that the sound of it is not grating on a person’s ear but will captivate a person. This will also extend to her telephone voice. For a Diva knows that how one speaks will also raise the bar. Jeff Foxworthy, one time in his comedy routine, explained how much a person loses confidence if their banker or Doctor talked like a redneck. Although that was said as a joke it IS true in real life.
Because of her work at getting a good education a Diva will know how to get a conversation going by using the principle of H.E.L.P, H---hobbies, E---entertainment, L----literature, P----politics.
But most of the time the conversation at a party hardly ever gets past E---entertainment, unless one switches to Finance which can always be to a Diva’s best advantage (more on that later)
A Diva is also smart enough to avoid the dangerous minefields of Politics, Religion and Sports especially with men; even if she knows the subject thoroughly even if she has an investment in a sports team or a possible political candidate. The only time a Diva will ever slide into the field of Politics is to see which candidate maybe good or what congressional bill may affect her income or investments.
A Diva also knows that if a man remains on those subjects exclusively especially religion and sports then he is to be avoided if one doesn’t want to get bored, unless there is information to be milked to the Divas advantage.
A Diva is never a member of one political party or another, because SHE KNOWS ALL PARTIES WILL LIE TO WIN VOTES but will vote or chose the party and/or candidate that will do the best for her investments and life style.
In researching something a Diva will always check her facts thoroughly and not be taken in by half-truths, rumors or gossip. And that should be a Diva’s Mantra.
~~~~~~~~~~~~
There my Dears, and that is only the beginning, there is sooo much more learn. From time to time I and my friend Mean Kitty will expound and expand further on covered topics, that is because we are always finding something new----and it's always wise for a Diva to be updated.
Now I want to tell you a deliteful story~~~~I asked my friend when did she know that her niece at a very young age, was a Diva in training and she told me this.
{When my niece was very little and she and her brothers and parents would come to visit, she didn't want to nap on the couch like her brother's did, oh no, she wanted to nap on Auntie's bed that had the nice soft velvet pillows on it--I had to send those pillows frequently to the dry clearners to get the drool off.
Later when she was a little older I'd find her doing makeup experiments with my good cosmetics, Clinque etc. anything you bought at Macy's or Nordstrom (Thank God I hid my Chanel lipsticks from her) anything that was from a drug store she would instintivly avoid---I lost a lot of cosmetics that way.
But the thing that really convinced me and her parents that she was a Diva in Training was this event. My brother and his wife took all three kids, to a large shopping mall, the boys as always needed new clothes, so my brother took my niece to get an ice cream while my sister-in-law shopped in the boys department, my niece always thought shopping for boys clothes was boring, that was one of her first words in fact.
Well at the mall various car dealerships were also showing their most expensive car models, like BMW, Volvo, etc. with velvet ropes around the cars and sales reps at the ready.
My brother and niece came out of the ice cream shop after having ice cream, and my brother was planning to clean his daughters fingers and hands off of the chocolate ice cream dribbles, and that is when she looked up and saw IT!!!
It happened to be a bright shiny red Ferrari! My niece screamed and said "DADDY I WANT!! I WANT!!" Proceeded to run to the car, ducked under the velvet ropes and repeatedly padded her sticky ice cream fingers all over the bright red Ferrari fender still saying "Daddy I want! I want" By the way she was all of three years old---
My poor embarssed brother had to step over the ropes, picked up his daughter, my diva in training niece, like she was a sack of potatos, and she kept screaming her mantra and kicking her legs. In the meantime a nice looking young sales man dressed in smart looking suit came up with a clean cloth and cleaning solution and very politily asked my brother "And how soon sir would you like to take possession of this fine car?" and my brother stepping back over the ropes with my three year old niece under his arm replied "NOT UNTIL SHE'S 21!"
I'm soooo sorry it took so long to get this part up, but my dear friend "Mean Kitty" has been going back and forth to make sure that she and her darling niece have it right.
Now in this part we are discussing one of the MOST important foundations of Divadom---and no my dears I'm not talking "max factor" or "covergirl" , We are referring to what is important to help you get the Diva Life you desire so much.
This is your foundation to build on----now for those of you who are finally coming into your Divaness late in life, do not feel left out. This part of life never stops----and in this case this old dog is still learning a few new tricks.
Now what are we talking about??? Hmmmmm??? Why EDUCATION of course!!!
The young have no idea how important Education is to help begin to become a Diva, they waste an important part of their life and then spend years trying to catch up or years of saying to themselves "What the H#$% Happened?" If only they paid attention at the beginning.
Being a Diva is more than looking beautiful and having a lot of Diamonds. Being a Diva is having the wearwithal to work to obtain the Diva life. And Education is the Foundation to the Diva Life.
So Possums here we goooo~~~~~
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
EDUCATION
The first and foremost thing a Diva needs and will seek and get is A GOOD EDUCATION. And a Diva knows that an education is on going in life because a Diva NEVER STOPS LEARNING.
As a Diva is growing up she feels that school is a bore, because a Diva wants to play; the mind set is “I want to have fun”, BUT without an education a Diva will not have the tools to finance and live the Diva life. It’s important for the Diva to balance getting an education and wanting to play. As a matter of fact all of a Diva’s life is a balancing act.
Young people think that they know it all, but they don’t, they think what they see on television is for real but they have not learned to discern, to find the real truth, they will follow without thinking who ever is the political glamour queen or king and think that their message is gospel. A Diva knows that is not so.
For Example: A lot of people think that Al Gore’s message on Climate Change is brought upon by Human beings as being the gospel truth, but many, many climatologiests have found through careful scientific research that it’s really cyclic----that 1000 years ago the earth was much warmer, that Vikings were growing wheat in Greenland, but then it began to get cold, until it became the weather that we are familiar with, and wheat hasn’t grown in Greenland in the last 600 years. Al Gore is claiming that the seas will rise 17 feet with the melting of the North Pole; Scientists are saying that it will rise only 17 inches and that the South Pole is getting colder and the reason that ice shelf’s are cleaving off is because of weight.
The point is this--- a Diva will search for the Truth and not believe everything she hears because a Diva is aware of falsehoods and deliberate mis-information so that politicians and other groups will be able to promote their own agenda.
When a Diva is in college she will also beware of any teacher that will promote one political agenda and not allow room for other thoughts, those teachers and professors are the worst kind and a Diva will beware of groups that promote a Stalinist type agenda under the disguise of political awareness.
A Diva will remember the adage “If you promote a lie long enough and hard enough the public will come to believe it” (Joseph Gobbles, Hitler’s propaganda minister)
A number of young people think that the “gangsta life” is the way to get a head but it only leads them down a path of self destruction and death. A Diva is way too smart to fall for those falsehoods, because a Diva knows that the real power is what is behind the scenes. Not the performers, but the investors. Because a performer is here today and forgotten tomorrow, but money from a solid investment is permanent. (Remember Brittany Spears’ meltdown)
Because of that A Diva has to constantly remind herself that EDUCATION IS IMPORTANT, MORE IMPORTANT THAN BOYS OR FUN because the fun will come AFTER the Diva has her tools and weapons sharpened to outsmart the fools and a Diva is never a fool.
A Diva will find ways to make Education interesting, she will ask her teachers questions that she needs to find the answers for. She will not be a pest about it, but demonstrate to the teachers that she wants that education. She is not trying to be a teacher’s pet, but looking for a teacher to mentor her, she will cultivate those teachers that have the education smarts to offer her.
In time, especially in High School, having letters of recommendation from several teachers can be a plus to help get college grants to get into the college a Diva wants to go to.
A Diva will go to school, work hard to get excellent grades without looking like the class brain and knows that grammar school and high school and its entire teenage angst are only transitory and only training grounds to learn to excel in the world. She will GET a college education so that she can succeed in the world, earn tons of money and maintain being her own woman.
A Diva will not develop a crush on a teacher, especially in college because it will distract her from her DIVA goal. Nor will a Diva develop a crush on a boy because he looks “dreamy”, because a Diva KNOWS that old dreamy boy will develop a gut; lose his hair and eventually his looks.
In school a Diva will develop friends that look like they are planning to go places but not do stupid things such as drinking, drugs, fast reckless driving. She will develop both female and male friends---the male friends are handy for a quick date for any of the school events, but she will never commit herself to any one boyfriend, because a Diva is going places and doesn’t need that kind of baggage that doesn’t measure up to the Diva Standards to hold her back
While she is at school she will know that at home she will have her parents as a support group to give her the adult take on life---the only time this can be difficult is if a Diva has toxic parents. If that is a problem a Diva would be wise to seek a school consular or teacher to help her focus on her goals.
No matter what field of work a Diva chooses she will get an excellent education in areas of finance, business, legal understanding, medical, religion, literature, music (and more than just rap, rock or hip-hop----you have Got to know classical music), politics as well as in the mundane areas such as auto mechanics, home repair, and know the mundane stuff such as how to cook, sew a button, fix a hem and get stains out of clothing.
When a Diva goes to College she will seek a degree in which it will afford the most opportunity to earn the DIVA Money, such degrees as Accounting, Business administration/management, computer science, information sciences and systems, marketing/marketing management, computer engineering, Economics/Finance. She will not ignore the degrees of Journalism or Media Marketing either. Wherever she can earn Diva Bucks is where the Diva will go, forget Theatre arts and Music---there are too many starving actors and musicians out there. The Diva can minor in such fields especially if she plans to work in the support areas of film and theatre, such as actor agencies, set design, etc. but she must keep her eye on the Diva Bucks.
The Diva will also look into the fields of technology, consulting and investment fields as well as real estate, biotech, pharmaceutical companies and health care, and other science-oriented companies, as well as private equity firms, and she should be aware of ‘boutique’ consulting firms that are sometimes spin-offs of larger companies.
After a Diva graduates from college (with no less than a MBA) she will NOT stop her education, she will continue to take classes than she can squeeze in her busy Diva life that will help expand her education and awareness. She will take seminars especially in the field that she has studied, she will also take seminars (that don’t sound like a possible rip off) to help her learn other ways to earn the Diva Bucks. The Diva will go to conferences, to learn and network so that she can always rise up in her job and earn more Diva Bucks.
A Diva will learn to read and understand the financial pages of the newspaper especially if she wants to learn how to invest her money to make more money.
As a matter of fact a Diva will be a borderline “news junkie” because she knows what happens in one part of the world will affect her stock income. And I’m not referring to the 10 second sound bite on CNN, She WILL read the Newspapers, magazines, and journals.
A Diva will intellectually be a knowledgeable well rounded woman, even smarter than the men she has to deal with, but she will also know how to milk a man or even another woman for his/her knowledge, especially if it is to the Diva’s advantage.
A Diva will learn a second language, but will not let on that she knows the language, this way if they talk behind her back, she’ll be one up on them. By pretending to not know the language, her competitors will be apt to speak more freely around her, and a Diva will gain a great advantage.
A Diva will be computer savvy and not afraid of electronics, she’ll know how to program a VCR better than 7 year old. In some fields, the better she knows how to work around a computer the better for her. Think of Ms. Garcia in the T.V. show “Criminal Minds” or Abby in “NCIS” or the beautiful Russian computer programmer in the Bond movie “Goldeneye”.
A Diva will cultivate friends both in high and low places, for it is important not only what a Diva knows but whom a Diva knows, for a Diva can be as devious as “Laura Mars” and know where to have well placed friends in “low places” so she can get the information and well placed friends in “high places” so she can call in a favor, but she also needs to remember she too may be called to pay back the favor as well.
A Diva will be wise to also place a certain distance between herself and those who are in a position to help her---to avoid intimacy will help the Diva remain clear headed and focused.
A Diva will learn the value of Networking in College because they will eventually become the contacts one needs in business (I will re-peat this frequently)
A Diva will develop an extensive proper English speaking vocabulary and avoid foul words and stumbling sayings such as “er, um, a like ya know, a like a, gee that’s hecka bad, gee Dude, where you at, get your freak on, Wassup, etc.” The only time she would ever use those words is when she is with her nearest and dearest.
But out in the real world, where you are earning the Diva Bucks, what you say and how you say it is what other people will judge you by and a Diva knows that and by speaking correctly, using all the right and proper phrases, people will think she’s is 24 karat gold and not vermeil----Because a Diva is always 24 karat gold and never vermeil.
A Diva will know how to shoot a gun, shot pool, play poker or Texas hold ‘em and still be a lady when she goes for the throat.
A Diva will develop a well rounded and well-modulated speaking voice so that the sound of it is not grating on a person’s ear but will captivate a person. This will also extend to her telephone voice. For a Diva knows that how one speaks will also raise the bar. Jeff Foxworthy, one time in his comedy routine, explained how much a person loses confidence if their banker or Doctor talked like a redneck. Although that was said as a joke it IS true in real life.
Because of her work at getting a good education a Diva will know how to get a conversation going by using the principle of H.E.L.P, H---hobbies, E---entertainment, L----literature, P----politics.
But most of the time the conversation at a party hardly ever gets past E---entertainment, unless one switches to Finance which can always be to a Diva’s best advantage (more on that later)
A Diva is also smart enough to avoid the dangerous minefields of Politics, Religion and Sports especially with men; even if she knows the subject thoroughly even if she has an investment in a sports team or a possible political candidate. The only time a Diva will ever slide into the field of Politics is to see which candidate maybe good or what congressional bill may affect her income or investments.
A Diva also knows that if a man remains on those subjects exclusively especially religion and sports then he is to be avoided if one doesn’t want to get bored, unless there is information to be milked to the Divas advantage.
A Diva is never a member of one political party or another, because SHE KNOWS ALL PARTIES WILL LIE TO WIN VOTES but will vote or chose the party and/or candidate that will do the best for her investments and life style.
In researching something a Diva will always check her facts thoroughly and not be taken in by half-truths, rumors or gossip. And that should be a Diva’s Mantra.
~~~~~~~~~~~~
There my Dears, and that is only the beginning, there is sooo much more learn. From time to time I and my friend Mean Kitty will expound and expand further on covered topics, that is because we are always finding something new----and it's always wise for a Diva to be updated.
Now I want to tell you a deliteful story~~~~I asked my friend when did she know that her niece at a very young age, was a Diva in training and she told me this.
{When my niece was very little and she and her brothers and parents would come to visit, she didn't want to nap on the couch like her brother's did, oh no, she wanted to nap on Auntie's bed that had the nice soft velvet pillows on it--I had to send those pillows frequently to the dry clearners to get the drool off.
Later when she was a little older I'd find her doing makeup experiments with my good cosmetics, Clinque etc. anything you bought at Macy's or Nordstrom (Thank God I hid my Chanel lipsticks from her) anything that was from a drug store she would instintivly avoid---I lost a lot of cosmetics that way.
But the thing that really convinced me and her parents that she was a Diva in Training was this event. My brother and his wife took all three kids, to a large shopping mall, the boys as always needed new clothes, so my brother took my niece to get an ice cream while my sister-in-law shopped in the boys department, my niece always thought shopping for boys clothes was boring, that was one of her first words in fact.
Well at the mall various car dealerships were also showing their most expensive car models, like BMW, Volvo, etc. with velvet ropes around the cars and sales reps at the ready.
My brother and niece came out of the ice cream shop after having ice cream, and my brother was planning to clean his daughters fingers and hands off of the chocolate ice cream dribbles, and that is when she looked up and saw IT!!!
It happened to be a bright shiny red Ferrari! My niece screamed and said "DADDY I WANT!! I WANT!!" Proceeded to run to the car, ducked under the velvet ropes and repeatedly padded her sticky ice cream fingers all over the bright red Ferrari fender still saying "Daddy I want! I want" By the way she was all of three years old---
My poor embarssed brother had to step over the ropes, picked up his daughter, my diva in training niece, like she was a sack of potatos, and she kept screaming her mantra and kicking her legs. In the meantime a nice looking young sales man dressed in smart looking suit came up with a clean cloth and cleaning solution and very politily asked my brother "And how soon sir would you like to take possession of this fine car?" and my brother stepping back over the ropes with my three year old niece under his arm replied "NOT UNTIL SHE'S 21!"
And that is when we knew she was a Diva.}
~~~~Well Darlings didn't I tell you it was a deliteful story and the little dear, altho she's grown up now, is still that way.
Mmmmmm well Darlings it's time for my evening martini, and my massage.
Until later.
Divafablous drawing the curtain and sipping a deliteful drink.
Tuesday, April 3, 2007
What do I look like?
Well Darlings,
I've been asked to describe myself to you, I dislike putting up a photo as I am always changing myself.
Because being a Diva changing oneself is important.
I had a hard time trying to think of a way to describe myself except that I'm 5' feet 5 inches tall, I'm still a size 8 (amazing) My stomach is not a flat as it use to be, but I still have fabulous legs, my hair is blonde (it was real blonde when I was young, now I help it) my eyes are green, I have managed to avoid wrinkles because I don't sun bathe, smoke, or eat junk food and confine my martini's to only two a week. But I can't resist a small chocolate torte.
I have high almost slavic cheek bones, I worked hard on making my voice pleasant to listen to.
I've been active in little theatre, but now a day they all want to do avant guarde things, so there hasn't been much for me to audition for.
I've acted in the stage version of "Witness for the Prosecution" 3 times, all because each director said I have a bit of a resemblance to Marlene Dietrich as Christine Vole. (and I played the role successfully too)
I love wearing beautiful gowns espeically from the 1930's, 40's and 50's I even collect designer gowns, and designer costume jewerly and yes I wear Fur, but only mink they are not endangered.
There have been times when someone has briefly mistaken me for the Great Marlene to which I'm flattered.
But even I have to bow to some problems of age, such as wearing glasses to read, well one can't be perfect all the time.
And what to I enjoy doing? Well Darlings, what do you think a well traveled, well educated woman of the world enjoys doing? Hmmmmm?
I love theatre, the movies, the opera, reading, going to intimate jazz clubs, and even enjoying a good comedy act, discovering restraunts that have fabulous food, traveling, antique hunting, auctions, Shopping in the City, being with good friends and even doing things that some people would consider quaint such as attending events sponsored by the Art Deco Society. Going for a drive with my dear friends Bill and Irma who have the most fabulous car collection, in one of their fabulous cars.
I get restless at times, rain and winter almost crimps my Diva style but I persever.
Well Darlings, time to go, one of my dear friends is here to take me out to dinner at some new delightful spot.
Kisses Darlings.
I've been asked to describe myself to you, I dislike putting up a photo as I am always changing myself.
Because being a Diva changing oneself is important.
I had a hard time trying to think of a way to describe myself except that I'm 5' feet 5 inches tall, I'm still a size 8 (amazing) My stomach is not a flat as it use to be, but I still have fabulous legs, my hair is blonde (it was real blonde when I was young, now I help it) my eyes are green, I have managed to avoid wrinkles because I don't sun bathe, smoke, or eat junk food and confine my martini's to only two a week. But I can't resist a small chocolate torte.
I have high almost slavic cheek bones, I worked hard on making my voice pleasant to listen to.
I've been active in little theatre, but now a day they all want to do avant guarde things, so there hasn't been much for me to audition for.
I've acted in the stage version of "Witness for the Prosecution" 3 times, all because each director said I have a bit of a resemblance to Marlene Dietrich as Christine Vole. (and I played the role successfully too)
I love wearing beautiful gowns espeically from the 1930's, 40's and 50's I even collect designer gowns, and designer costume jewerly and yes I wear Fur, but only mink they are not endangered.
There have been times when someone has briefly mistaken me for the Great Marlene to which I'm flattered.
But even I have to bow to some problems of age, such as wearing glasses to read, well one can't be perfect all the time.
And what to I enjoy doing? Well Darlings, what do you think a well traveled, well educated woman of the world enjoys doing? Hmmmmm?
I love theatre, the movies, the opera, reading, going to intimate jazz clubs, and even enjoying a good comedy act, discovering restraunts that have fabulous food, traveling, antique hunting, auctions, Shopping in the City, being with good friends and even doing things that some people would consider quaint such as attending events sponsored by the Art Deco Society. Going for a drive with my dear friends Bill and Irma who have the most fabulous car collection, in one of their fabulous cars.
I get restless at times, rain and winter almost crimps my Diva style but I persever.
Well Darlings, time to go, one of my dear friends is here to take me out to dinner at some new delightful spot.
Kisses Darlings.
Friday, March 16, 2007
WHAT IS A DIVA??
Well Possums I did promise you that I would start putting up my friend "Mean Kitty's" what is a Diva postings here.
And frankly I do think she covers it very well. I am also going to include the meaning of Sovernity because for Divas that is sooooo important.
Mean Kitty and I are going to duplicate the Diva postings, because I do understand that some of her friends are more familar with her than with me.
But Possums---no matter what we are getting it out there---so you must learn to Live the Diva Loca Life.
I do wish that I could make up those cute little jelly type braclets that would say "WWADD"
What Would A Diva Do? Oh do I feel a book in the creation??? Hmmmmm who knows it is possible My Darlings. To learn to be strong as Tina Turner, in control like "Diamond Lil", and as devious as "Laura Mars" and beautiful as well----that is what we all yearn for Darlings. And you are reading it here. So time to Start Learning.
What is a Diva?
The word Diva was originally used for opera singers of the first and finest caliber. This word now applies to popular female persons who are non-operatic Because of that it can also apply to an attitude since many of the non-operatic performers now-a-days have little talent.
In order to qualify as a REAL DIVA you must have one or both of two qualities or dominant traits, a broad and expansive voice or great talent and/or a thoroughly captivating and commanding presence.
The word Diva is the femine Latin word of Divus which means “Divine One” or “God/dess” (Male opera singers are sometimes referred to as “Divo”)
So A Diva is a person who has a rare, outstanding talent or is an extremely independent, confident and wildly talented woman. Think Aretha Franklin, Tina Turner, Cher, Marlene Dietrich, and Mae West as a few prime examples.
But in the real world of making a living it’s a lot more than that, it’s also a way of life and survival. As you read on you will find out how to become A Diva~~~~~
THE DIVA’S OUTLOOK ON LIFE
A Diva must remember that the word Diva means “Divine Inspiration for Victorious Living” (see Michele McKinney Hammonds’ books)
A Diva knows that if she ignores or dismisses her history she’d be living a lie. A Diva sincerely believes that the mothers, grandmothers and great-grandmothers of the world went though all they did so we Diva’s wouldn’t have to wake up in the morning with plight and torture and insurmountable odds on our shoulders so we can be free to think about outfits, clients, parties, rocking the industry, making tons of money for our financial security and taking over the entire world.
A Diva will never take for granted all the hard work they did and will continue to fight to keep the gains that have been made for womanhood and demand for more.
A Diva will not be trapped into a straight jacketed life as defined by society, religion, government, men (especially from her boyfriend) or other women.
A Diva is shaped by her parents, grandparents and other relations, and if she is in a good family and social environment she will always take the good with her, the bad she will leave behind. If she is in a negative or toxic family and/or social environment she will do her best to break out of it, she will never forget where she came from, but she will not let its scar’s keep her down but overcome them.
A Diva is her own adult person. She does not need another person to help define or fulfill themselves nor does a Diva need another person to love them to feel that they are loved. A Diva Loves Herself First. (More on that later)
This may give the appearance of being selfish or self-centered, which in the long run is not a bad trait if utilized properly, because A Diva KNOWS that to think of herself first is the first rule of survival. The clever trick that the Diva will implement in certain situations, is making it look like it also benefits other people, but the Diva knows it will benefit her first.
For Example: I have a plum tree that needed to have one of its’ large branches removed but I didn’t have the funds, I also noticed that the branch that needed removing was pressing against my neighbors fence and its upper arms crossing over into her yard. I had informed her when she first moved in “if you want to trim back any branches from any of my trees that are going over into your yard, go right ahead and cut them back to the fence line, you shouldn’t have to be annoyed by them.” My act of generosity worked and she didn’t feel guilty about cutting the branches—I had even told her that she was welcomed to harvest any fruit that was ripening on her side. (Fruit Trees as Shade will give more bang for the buck)
Eventually she came to me and explained about the branch pressing against her fence, and the need for the tree trimmers to have to come onto my property to cut the offending branch, I said I understood the necessity for it to be done and had no problem with it and even drew up a letter of permission for the tree trimmers to come onto my property. The end result she was happy that the branch wasn’t pressing against her fence and causing damage and I was very happy that it didn’t cost me a dime.
A Diva can also be truly caring or generous about other people or situations behind the scenes without announcing, being flamboyant or mushy about it. A Real Diva never brags about it, her actions will brag it for her.
EXAMPLE: From the movie “She Done Him Wrong” with Mae West
Woman with small child stops Lady Lou (West) on the street---“Miss Lou you are a fine woman, A Fine Woman!”
Lou replies with a smile: “One of the finest women to walk the Streets!”
This scene suggests that Lady Lou has helped needy people without her racketeer boyfriend and his cronies as well as any religious or social snobs knowing about it.
Later on in the film Lou sells one of her fabulous diamond necklaces to prevent the charity mission from being kicked out of its home. Granted she does that to prevent the handsome Chaplin from leaving her sphere of influence but her selfish action also keeps a much needed organization from leaving. Watch the movie “She Done Him Wrong” and although dated and a bit corny, see a Diva in action. There are several films featuring Mae West which shows what actions a “worldly-wise” woman will do to get her man, but also helps other people---“Belle of the Nineties”, “Klondike Annie” West’s characters never mock religion or motherhood, but knows how the real world is like and how naive people can be.
A Diva is always confident in her abilities, she knows that with her knowledge, smarts and talents she can mentally “kick butt and take names”, however there are times when it’s good for a Diva to have someone around to bounce ideas off of, whom a Diva will consider a friend, but never either a rival or a slave.
A Diva knows, understands and plays the mans’ game without being a bitch, she knows she has to be smarter than men and stay away from using sex or gutter tactics that can place her in a position of personal, career, financial or legal harm or scandal.
A Diva is always aware of the law and will make the law work for her. If a Diva wants to get a quick lesson about the law she should tape, “Judge Judy”, “People’s Court”, “Judge Joe Brown” and “Cops” not only will she get a quick lesson on the law but also get a laugh about people’s stupidity.
A Diva is never a bitch. Although the term “diva” has been used in a less than flattering tone which indicates “bitch”, a Diva knows that when it’s used in the negative the other person is describing an unpleasant, demanding, and troublesome woman. A True Diva is none of that, but she always gets what she wants, and if she can’t get it, she doesn’t want it.
A Diva will turn the word “bitch” to mean a “Babe In Total Control of Herself”
(B.I.T.C.H.) which a Diva always is.
A Diva is tough without appearing to be tough, but she is not passive/aggressive either, she always works from a position or platform of power, knows all the angles, will make sure that what she has, and is doing is within the law and will hold up in court, and thinks like a man without having to be one. (You will note that I will repeat this quite often---remember don’t act like Rosie O’Donnell)
A Diva NEVER SHOWS ANGER, or distress about a situation and she never panics. If a situation comes up that could make her angry she controls it and instead will analyze the situation to see if there is any way it can be worked in her favor or if there is some way she can utilized the situation. Otherwise she will take it as a learning lesson and file it away among her repertoire of Diva tools.
A Diva will remember to “Hope for the Best, Expect the Worst and See what comes.”
A Diva strongly believes in a woman’s right to choose. This is something she will never forget, because once her sovereignty is taken away she and her Diva sisters will begin to lose all that those who went before her fought hard to win. A Diva will make sure that she and her sisters will never lose those freedoms of choice.
A Diva always knows that she is talented, gorgeous and smart although a man may never be aware of it, belittles it or doesn’t even think of it, it’s one way to outsmart them, and should a man even attempt to belittle a Diva for her smarts, she KNOWS he’s poison and will kick him to the curb right away. A Diva doesn’t need a guy like that to “squire” her around
A Diva can be and most always is a “Warrior Woman” but she never shows it, except when she makes “the Kill”, and even then she does it like a Lady.
A Diva understand the saying “Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me,” so she makes sure she is NOT fooled at all.
Especially in the items that will be listed, A Diva will be the master of or have a strong understanding in matters of health, business, finance, educational knowledge, attitude, interaction with others and dress, and this can pay off in big dividends----especially if Divas want things to come their way.
A Diva will not be rushed into decision making, but will apply the “10-10-10” rule, which is “How will this affect me in 10 minutes, in 10 months, in 10 years.” Part of this would also assume that the Diva has both short term and long term goals and also a willingness to realize that it’s important to face difficult realities and that this rule will bring about a realization of what is truly important and will prevent the Diva as she is growing up from getting into serious trouble.
For Example: If a Diva is with her friends and one of them says “Hey so and so is having a party, lets go and crash it” A Diva will mentally step back and quickly analyze the situation--- She will think ‘will this bring the police, will I get arrested, or harmed, will I go to jail and therefore lose any chances of good financial advancement. Will this childish action be harmful to me in any way especially as I get older?” A Diva will realize that for the few moments of childish actions or imagined infantile insults, it can lead to a lifetime of pain.
A Diva can be commanding and yet nice, especially when dealing with someone in the service industries such as a Sales girl, waitress, housekeeping in hotels, anyone who renders the Diva a service. A Diva knows that these overworked and underpaid staff persons are what help keeps the Diva’s wheels rolling.
Two Examples: My boyfriend and I traveled to of all places Stockton, for a special event, the hotel we were staying at was very nice but not like staying at a 5 star hotel where a room could costs minimum of $500 a day, but every morning, before we left for the day I would leave a $5.00 tip on the night stand with a note saying “Thank You Housekeeping”. I did this every day as I didn’t know which person was cleaning the room, the end result was when we returned each evening we had fresh towels, fresh sheets, fresh supplies of everything, every thing was immaculate and sparkling, even though we had not requested it.
My Diva eyes noted that whoever was assigned to our rooms was making an extra effort for us. On the last day we were leaving, again I left a tip but I added a longer note that said “Thank You Housekeeping for making our stay so comfortable.” I knew that it would be shown to the other staff and it would certainly reflect that their hard work did not go un-noticed and was appreciated, something that would give a boost to staff, but in doing that it made our vacation wonderful. So it pays for a Diva to note extra hard work by another.
The other event occurred during the Christmas holidays, I was at a department store and was looking at the special offerings of jewelry (A Diva can never have too much jewelry---the real stuff), the counter was crowded and the short amount of staff harassed. People were saying ”here, here take me,” well as soon as one of the staffers finished with one customer she looked up with tired eyes and looked around and all I did was just smile and raised my hand a little and waved.
She immediately came over to me by passing the patrons who were trying to get her attention, once she was in front of me and everyone else realized I was next, I looked at her, smiled and said “Now take a few moments and breathe” She did and I knew it gave her a few seconds to get her thoughts together, that moment of sanity. I suggested that management might want to consider a number dispenser to help create some order for staff and she said she was going to inform them and was grateful for the idea. I deliberately went slowly more for her sake than mine. And she gave me full quality service because with me she got a mini-mental health break. So it pays for a Diva to note when a service person is also having a rough day, by acknowledging that the service person is human with feelings and problems, the service person will go the “extra mile” in service to the Diva.
A Diva needs top quality people in these fields------
Doctors---internists, and GYN, Dentist, eye doctors, and any other doctors, Lawyers (may need more than one), auto mechanic, a good financial officer/advisor (investments), a good CPA(Taxes---a Diva never does her own taxes when she can hire someone to do it but she will always keep excellent financial records), plumber, appliance repair for large appliances, a Vet (if you have a pet), gardener, handyman, maid cleaning service, grocery store that delivers, dry cleaner, tailor or seamstress, shoemaker for repair, hair stylist/beautician, manicurist/pedicurist, masseuses, computer repair person, insurance agent (auto, home, personal) a personal shopper (if need be) and if she is a Diva Mom a good pediatrician, Nanny, Day Care, Baby Sitter, Private School, tutors, etc.
If you have quality people at your service you have it made.
So why these people, one might ask? Some of them are fairly obvious, but some are not, so I’ll explain----A Diva knows how to make things last, because it does pay to be Frugal and not max the credit cards. If a Diva’s Jimmy Cho’s shoe breaks or the handle breaks on her Gucci bag and as you know they ARE expensive, she doesn’t throw them away, she repairs them. The same with clothing, autos, appliances, electronic stuff. In that way a Diva can be frugal, but when it’s dead it’s dead, still a Diva doesn’t throw it away, she will donate to a charity because there will be someone who might be able to fix it and it’s also a tax right off.
MORE TO COME-----
Now Darlings in my next blog I will put in what is "Sovernity" and more about Becomeing a Diva.
Until anno Divafabaulous drinking her Martini and signing off.
And frankly I do think she covers it very well. I am also going to include the meaning of Sovernity because for Divas that is sooooo important.
Mean Kitty and I are going to duplicate the Diva postings, because I do understand that some of her friends are more familar with her than with me.
But Possums---no matter what we are getting it out there---so you must learn to Live the Diva Loca Life.
I do wish that I could make up those cute little jelly type braclets that would say "WWADD"
What Would A Diva Do? Oh do I feel a book in the creation??? Hmmmmm who knows it is possible My Darlings. To learn to be strong as Tina Turner, in control like "Diamond Lil", and as devious as "Laura Mars" and beautiful as well----that is what we all yearn for Darlings. And you are reading it here. So time to Start Learning.
What is a Diva?
The word Diva was originally used for opera singers of the first and finest caliber. This word now applies to popular female persons who are non-operatic Because of that it can also apply to an attitude since many of the non-operatic performers now-a-days have little talent.
In order to qualify as a REAL DIVA you must have one or both of two qualities or dominant traits, a broad and expansive voice or great talent and/or a thoroughly captivating and commanding presence.
The word Diva is the femine Latin word of Divus which means “Divine One” or “God/dess” (Male opera singers are sometimes referred to as “Divo”)
So A Diva is a person who has a rare, outstanding talent or is an extremely independent, confident and wildly talented woman. Think Aretha Franklin, Tina Turner, Cher, Marlene Dietrich, and Mae West as a few prime examples.
But in the real world of making a living it’s a lot more than that, it’s also a way of life and survival. As you read on you will find out how to become A Diva~~~~~
THE DIVA’S OUTLOOK ON LIFE
A Diva must remember that the word Diva means “Divine Inspiration for Victorious Living” (see Michele McKinney Hammonds’ books)
A Diva knows that if she ignores or dismisses her history she’d be living a lie. A Diva sincerely believes that the mothers, grandmothers and great-grandmothers of the world went though all they did so we Diva’s wouldn’t have to wake up in the morning with plight and torture and insurmountable odds on our shoulders so we can be free to think about outfits, clients, parties, rocking the industry, making tons of money for our financial security and taking over the entire world.
A Diva will never take for granted all the hard work they did and will continue to fight to keep the gains that have been made for womanhood and demand for more.
A Diva will not be trapped into a straight jacketed life as defined by society, religion, government, men (especially from her boyfriend) or other women.
A Diva is shaped by her parents, grandparents and other relations, and if she is in a good family and social environment she will always take the good with her, the bad she will leave behind. If she is in a negative or toxic family and/or social environment she will do her best to break out of it, she will never forget where she came from, but she will not let its scar’s keep her down but overcome them.
A Diva is her own adult person. She does not need another person to help define or fulfill themselves nor does a Diva need another person to love them to feel that they are loved. A Diva Loves Herself First. (More on that later)
This may give the appearance of being selfish or self-centered, which in the long run is not a bad trait if utilized properly, because A Diva KNOWS that to think of herself first is the first rule of survival. The clever trick that the Diva will implement in certain situations, is making it look like it also benefits other people, but the Diva knows it will benefit her first.
For Example: I have a plum tree that needed to have one of its’ large branches removed but I didn’t have the funds, I also noticed that the branch that needed removing was pressing against my neighbors fence and its upper arms crossing over into her yard. I had informed her when she first moved in “if you want to trim back any branches from any of my trees that are going over into your yard, go right ahead and cut them back to the fence line, you shouldn’t have to be annoyed by them.” My act of generosity worked and she didn’t feel guilty about cutting the branches—I had even told her that she was welcomed to harvest any fruit that was ripening on her side. (Fruit Trees as Shade will give more bang for the buck)
Eventually she came to me and explained about the branch pressing against her fence, and the need for the tree trimmers to have to come onto my property to cut the offending branch, I said I understood the necessity for it to be done and had no problem with it and even drew up a letter of permission for the tree trimmers to come onto my property. The end result she was happy that the branch wasn’t pressing against her fence and causing damage and I was very happy that it didn’t cost me a dime.
A Diva can also be truly caring or generous about other people or situations behind the scenes without announcing, being flamboyant or mushy about it. A Real Diva never brags about it, her actions will brag it for her.
EXAMPLE: From the movie “She Done Him Wrong” with Mae West
Woman with small child stops Lady Lou (West) on the street---“Miss Lou you are a fine woman, A Fine Woman!”
Lou replies with a smile: “One of the finest women to walk the Streets!”
This scene suggests that Lady Lou has helped needy people without her racketeer boyfriend and his cronies as well as any religious or social snobs knowing about it.
Later on in the film Lou sells one of her fabulous diamond necklaces to prevent the charity mission from being kicked out of its home. Granted she does that to prevent the handsome Chaplin from leaving her sphere of influence but her selfish action also keeps a much needed organization from leaving. Watch the movie “She Done Him Wrong” and although dated and a bit corny, see a Diva in action. There are several films featuring Mae West which shows what actions a “worldly-wise” woman will do to get her man, but also helps other people---“Belle of the Nineties”, “Klondike Annie” West’s characters never mock religion or motherhood, but knows how the real world is like and how naive people can be.
A Diva is always confident in her abilities, she knows that with her knowledge, smarts and talents she can mentally “kick butt and take names”, however there are times when it’s good for a Diva to have someone around to bounce ideas off of, whom a Diva will consider a friend, but never either a rival or a slave.
A Diva knows, understands and plays the mans’ game without being a bitch, she knows she has to be smarter than men and stay away from using sex or gutter tactics that can place her in a position of personal, career, financial or legal harm or scandal.
A Diva is always aware of the law and will make the law work for her. If a Diva wants to get a quick lesson about the law she should tape, “Judge Judy”, “People’s Court”, “Judge Joe Brown” and “Cops” not only will she get a quick lesson on the law but also get a laugh about people’s stupidity.
A Diva is never a bitch. Although the term “diva” has been used in a less than flattering tone which indicates “bitch”, a Diva knows that when it’s used in the negative the other person is describing an unpleasant, demanding, and troublesome woman. A True Diva is none of that, but she always gets what she wants, and if she can’t get it, she doesn’t want it.
A Diva will turn the word “bitch” to mean a “Babe In Total Control of Herself”
(B.I.T.C.H.) which a Diva always is.
A Diva is tough without appearing to be tough, but she is not passive/aggressive either, she always works from a position or platform of power, knows all the angles, will make sure that what she has, and is doing is within the law and will hold up in court, and thinks like a man without having to be one. (You will note that I will repeat this quite often---remember don’t act like Rosie O’Donnell)
A Diva NEVER SHOWS ANGER, or distress about a situation and she never panics. If a situation comes up that could make her angry she controls it and instead will analyze the situation to see if there is any way it can be worked in her favor or if there is some way she can utilized the situation. Otherwise she will take it as a learning lesson and file it away among her repertoire of Diva tools.
A Diva will remember to “Hope for the Best, Expect the Worst and See what comes.”
A Diva strongly believes in a woman’s right to choose. This is something she will never forget, because once her sovereignty is taken away she and her Diva sisters will begin to lose all that those who went before her fought hard to win. A Diva will make sure that she and her sisters will never lose those freedoms of choice.
A Diva always knows that she is talented, gorgeous and smart although a man may never be aware of it, belittles it or doesn’t even think of it, it’s one way to outsmart them, and should a man even attempt to belittle a Diva for her smarts, she KNOWS he’s poison and will kick him to the curb right away. A Diva doesn’t need a guy like that to “squire” her around
A Diva can be and most always is a “Warrior Woman” but she never shows it, except when she makes “the Kill”, and even then she does it like a Lady.
A Diva understand the saying “Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me,” so she makes sure she is NOT fooled at all.
Especially in the items that will be listed, A Diva will be the master of or have a strong understanding in matters of health, business, finance, educational knowledge, attitude, interaction with others and dress, and this can pay off in big dividends----especially if Divas want things to come their way.
A Diva will not be rushed into decision making, but will apply the “10-10-10” rule, which is “How will this affect me in 10 minutes, in 10 months, in 10 years.” Part of this would also assume that the Diva has both short term and long term goals and also a willingness to realize that it’s important to face difficult realities and that this rule will bring about a realization of what is truly important and will prevent the Diva as she is growing up from getting into serious trouble.
For Example: If a Diva is with her friends and one of them says “Hey so and so is having a party, lets go and crash it” A Diva will mentally step back and quickly analyze the situation--- She will think ‘will this bring the police, will I get arrested, or harmed, will I go to jail and therefore lose any chances of good financial advancement. Will this childish action be harmful to me in any way especially as I get older?” A Diva will realize that for the few moments of childish actions or imagined infantile insults, it can lead to a lifetime of pain.
A Diva can be commanding and yet nice, especially when dealing with someone in the service industries such as a Sales girl, waitress, housekeeping in hotels, anyone who renders the Diva a service. A Diva knows that these overworked and underpaid staff persons are what help keeps the Diva’s wheels rolling.
Two Examples: My boyfriend and I traveled to of all places Stockton, for a special event, the hotel we were staying at was very nice but not like staying at a 5 star hotel where a room could costs minimum of $500 a day, but every morning, before we left for the day I would leave a $5.00 tip on the night stand with a note saying “Thank You Housekeeping”. I did this every day as I didn’t know which person was cleaning the room, the end result was when we returned each evening we had fresh towels, fresh sheets, fresh supplies of everything, every thing was immaculate and sparkling, even though we had not requested it.
My Diva eyes noted that whoever was assigned to our rooms was making an extra effort for us. On the last day we were leaving, again I left a tip but I added a longer note that said “Thank You Housekeeping for making our stay so comfortable.” I knew that it would be shown to the other staff and it would certainly reflect that their hard work did not go un-noticed and was appreciated, something that would give a boost to staff, but in doing that it made our vacation wonderful. So it pays for a Diva to note extra hard work by another.
The other event occurred during the Christmas holidays, I was at a department store and was looking at the special offerings of jewelry (A Diva can never have too much jewelry---the real stuff), the counter was crowded and the short amount of staff harassed. People were saying ”here, here take me,” well as soon as one of the staffers finished with one customer she looked up with tired eyes and looked around and all I did was just smile and raised my hand a little and waved.
She immediately came over to me by passing the patrons who were trying to get her attention, once she was in front of me and everyone else realized I was next, I looked at her, smiled and said “Now take a few moments and breathe” She did and I knew it gave her a few seconds to get her thoughts together, that moment of sanity. I suggested that management might want to consider a number dispenser to help create some order for staff and she said she was going to inform them and was grateful for the idea. I deliberately went slowly more for her sake than mine. And she gave me full quality service because with me she got a mini-mental health break. So it pays for a Diva to note when a service person is also having a rough day, by acknowledging that the service person is human with feelings and problems, the service person will go the “extra mile” in service to the Diva.
A Diva needs top quality people in these fields------
Doctors---internists, and GYN, Dentist, eye doctors, and any other doctors, Lawyers (may need more than one), auto mechanic, a good financial officer/advisor (investments), a good CPA(Taxes---a Diva never does her own taxes when she can hire someone to do it but she will always keep excellent financial records), plumber, appliance repair for large appliances, a Vet (if you have a pet), gardener, handyman, maid cleaning service, grocery store that delivers, dry cleaner, tailor or seamstress, shoemaker for repair, hair stylist/beautician, manicurist/pedicurist, masseuses, computer repair person, insurance agent (auto, home, personal) a personal shopper (if need be) and if she is a Diva Mom a good pediatrician, Nanny, Day Care, Baby Sitter, Private School, tutors, etc.
If you have quality people at your service you have it made.
So why these people, one might ask? Some of them are fairly obvious, but some are not, so I’ll explain----A Diva knows how to make things last, because it does pay to be Frugal and not max the credit cards. If a Diva’s Jimmy Cho’s shoe breaks or the handle breaks on her Gucci bag and as you know they ARE expensive, she doesn’t throw them away, she repairs them. The same with clothing, autos, appliances, electronic stuff. In that way a Diva can be frugal, but when it’s dead it’s dead, still a Diva doesn’t throw it away, she will donate to a charity because there will be someone who might be able to fix it and it’s also a tax right off.
MORE TO COME-----
Now Darlings in my next blog I will put in what is "Sovernity" and more about Becomeing a Diva.
Until anno Divafabaulous drinking her Martini and signing off.
Sunday, March 11, 2007
Well Possums, I'm Here in All My Glory!!!
Dear Possums,
There has been a serious dearth of how to truly be a Diva, of course darlings, it all depends on what type of Diva you want to be.
My dear, dear friend "Mean Kitty" was working on a post about learning the Diva life but she just hasn't the time to post it, so Possums, she is giving to me, sweet Moi, her disc's and I said I would modify, edit and post it Here on my Brand New web site.
Now of course all of you want to know why do I call you "Possums", well I have to confess I "borrowed" it from Dame Edna---Now There's a Diva (even if she is in drag) but she does show you how to LIVE and do it with fun!
Have you even seen a possum? Well dears, the poor creature does wear fur, but freezes when confronted by anything. It comes out mostly at night, and looks like it's always squinting. The poor thing looks like it doesn't want to be apart of anything, almost afraid of its own shadow. Whereas Diva's are like the Sun out there, burning bright and shining and all that good stuff.
So if you have come to this web site it's because you are tired of being a possum and want to know how to Shine!! So remember my dears if I call you possum I'm doing it with LOVE because I know you are working on improving yourself and I'm using it as a term of enderment.
Oh and you will learn all kinds of phrases I'm sure you haven't heard of in ages.
Now my sweet friend "Mean Kitty" is going to give me her inital posting and I will re-post it here. It may take a bit. But if you want to learn to be divafabulous like me you then you will cultivate a very important trait----it's called paticence. Sooooo very important.
So watch for the next posting---it will be the introduction and what is a Diva.
More later, my dears.
There has been a serious dearth of how to truly be a Diva, of course darlings, it all depends on what type of Diva you want to be.
My dear, dear friend "Mean Kitty" was working on a post about learning the Diva life but she just hasn't the time to post it, so Possums, she is giving to me, sweet Moi, her disc's and I said I would modify, edit and post it Here on my Brand New web site.
Now of course all of you want to know why do I call you "Possums", well I have to confess I "borrowed" it from Dame Edna---Now There's a Diva (even if she is in drag) but she does show you how to LIVE and do it with fun!
Have you even seen a possum? Well dears, the poor creature does wear fur, but freezes when confronted by anything. It comes out mostly at night, and looks like it's always squinting. The poor thing looks like it doesn't want to be apart of anything, almost afraid of its own shadow. Whereas Diva's are like the Sun out there, burning bright and shining and all that good stuff.
So if you have come to this web site it's because you are tired of being a possum and want to know how to Shine!! So remember my dears if I call you possum I'm doing it with LOVE because I know you are working on improving yourself and I'm using it as a term of enderment.
Oh and you will learn all kinds of phrases I'm sure you haven't heard of in ages.
Now my sweet friend "Mean Kitty" is going to give me her inital posting and I will re-post it here. It may take a bit. But if you want to learn to be divafabulous like me you then you will cultivate a very important trait----it's called paticence. Sooooo very important.
So watch for the next posting---it will be the introduction and what is a Diva.
More later, my dears.
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